Girl Problems. Don't read if you're sensative.

[random_hero]

OK - So for my entire first year in college, my girlfriend of 3 years and I were "kind of" dating. Anywho, about a month ago I find out she's myspace fucking some guy ( idk how to put talking dirty online, it souds very awkward.... so I refer to it as myspace fucking) This was 3 days before she comes to Buffalo to stay with me for a week. Basically she said please put it aside, when she visits it'll prove that she's serious...well it was OK when she came, but nothing that made me go "oh wow - she loves me!" Anywho, the night I found out I text some gir (cell phone fucking ftw?)l - after that night I havn't talked to her since. 2 days ago that girl I text sends her a myspace message "Have you and kyle been together in the past 3 months?" She lied to her straight up saying we fucked in december while I was home. This is a com plete lie - I know where I've stuck my dick and it was NOT in her in december. I don't get why she would lie like that? The ONLY thing I can think of is that she thought I wanted a relationship with me? Anyways - now this gigantic cunt of a kind of girlfriend Keeps telling me all this shit. Am I crazy or is this fucked up beond belief? I mean 3 - 4 years isn;t exactly easy to just walk away from even though everytrhing else is telling me to say "see you later bitch." and change my #

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Beth: and i thought you were being serious with me for the first time in our relationship
Beth: and i find out your not
aka random hero4 : Yes I was and I still am
aka random hero4 (8:54:08 PM): I want to be with you
aka random hero4 (8:54:13 PM): and you don't
aka random hero4 (8:54:22 PM): do you not realize we don't have a relationship right now?
aka random hero4 (8:54:33 PM): you've said multiple times the past few days we're just FWB
Beth: do you realize that idk what i want
Beth: and yeah ive said it
Beth: it makes tings easier
aka random hero4 (8:55:05 PM): for who, you?
Beth: it sucks to hear
Beth: i know kyle
aka random hero4 (8:55:11 PM): not for me
Beth: like i dont want to act like im friggin married
Beth: im 18
Beth: gonna start college soon
Beth: and thats what i felt like
Beth: i hated it
aka random hero4 (8:55:51 PM): I don't want to be married.
aka random hero4 (8:55:55 PM): I want to date.
Beth: and yeah a part of me does want to be that party girl like the rest of my friends
Beth: im sorry
Beth: but i want room to be crazy
Beth if nothing happens with other guys then fine
Beth but i want to just chill out
aka random hero4 (8:56:44 PM): then fine, I'm still here for you. but if they do then perfec,t your plan worked
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Beth: i read this book once
Beth: and it had a line ill never forget
Beth: "the best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else."
aka random hero4: yeah i know I've seen you quote it before
aka random hero4 (8:45:16 PM): are you saying thats what you're going to do, or what I did?
Beth: im saying that yesterday and today ive been angry to the point where i might do it just to release my anger
Beth: in my right state of mind
Beth: i dont want to
Beth: but when im seriously flippin out bc i hate your lies
Beth: i would
Beth: can you imagine bein that pissed off bc someone lies to you without even caring how it effects you?
aka random hero4 (8:46:38 PM): Not really. but thats a really shitty thing.
aka random hero4 (8:46:45 PM): *shitty thing to say
Beth: and i guess you should consider yourself lucky that neither josh nor brian actually wants to be with me

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Theres 3 hours worth of this shit. she thinks I'm lying about something but she doesnt know what when I've been honest with her, so any referance to lying is how I'm lying about the situation. She told me she's myspace fucked 2 other guys I don't know as well. The ONLY reason I found out about the first guy is because a friend didn't know we were together and when I said something about her - he was like oh, you're still with her? I heard this.....and she confirmed it.

Fucking myspace. fucking women. I broke a chair in my dorm room. :( I was gonna just go cruise but gas prices FTL =(

[capitalcrew]

AIMd.

[random_hero]

Oh yeah, I removed her SN so none of you sick fucks can IM her.:winkyface:

and part of me is like, just enjoy PIITB while you can, but the other says get the fuck out.

[JonsZX2SR]

Ahhhh Cricket... You're young, you take life too seriously. Your expectations for both yourself and the girl you are dating are unrealistic.

Seriously, when you are young it is normal to want to meet people, see how things turn out. If you get into a seemingly serious relationship at a very early age, these curiosities still tug at you. there is a tendency to be dishonest other people and with one's self to hag onto what you have and to explore.

My suggestion is to get over being angry and let go of her. Recognize that some lack of honesty comes with the territory. She is hanging onto you for security reasons at the same time she's looking around.

It will probabaly shock her when you tell her she is free to do as she pleases. This means that you are free to do the same without guilt.

However, if she wants to talk about what you are doing, don't go down that path, it only leads to unhealthy arguing.

Just let her know that she will be a friend but she is free to follow her own path. You do the same (and I expect you to date more than a few women) but avoid the need to talk with her about it. You don't need her permission, just give yourself permission...

(Picks Random Hero up off the floor and brushes off the dust and cobwebs...) Now get out there and have a ####ing good time, even if it kills you.

[Connal]

Ok, here is what you could do. I put emphasis on "could".

Get absolutely plastered, find a bunch of beautiful women. Chances are you can get a few to help if they know the situation.

All of you go to visit her. And tell her: "Don't be flattered. It doesn't take this many women to compete with you. It just takes this many to fit in your pants."

That will solve the problem pretty quickly. However, I would suggest wearing a cup when doing it. And posting a vid.

[freaktractor]

excellent words written JonsZX2SR...

definitely let her go and move on
and DONT let her know what/who your doing....like already said before,it will result in unhealthy arguments...

sometimes...no,always,its better to be the dumper than the dumpee

[Blue ZX2]

AWIB!!!! get with the program.

[Blue ZX2]

Beth: and i guess you should consider yourself lucky that neither josh nor brian actually wants to be with me

WOW dude.... I would drop that and RUN for your life!!!!!

[random_hero]

awib?

[Blue ZX2]

All Women Is Biitches.

Dude I feel for ya, but its just HS drama. Girls are super dumb in high school, they get a tad better by sophmore year in college and realise the world is bigger than OMG tarra slept with billy!!

Trust me, dont worry about it. :)

[capitalcrew]

Wait.. Tarra slept with Billy? Holy shit.! When? How'd it happen? Does Brad know???!

[Buster]

Reading that conversation, dump her.

She admits she's immature and wants to screw around. You don't need it.

Find a girl who doesn't have MySpace.

[2000ZxT]

Take Jon's advice. A lonnng time ago I had a post EXACTLY like this.

Beth: like i dont want to act like im friggin married
Beth: im 18

Is basically the underlying message. I got the same stuff from my girlfriend right before we broke up.

I know it's hard to think of having that same experience with another girl but honestly, how old are you 20? We are so young and often put ourselves in these fantasy scenarios with our girlfriends. That kind of scenario only hurts ourselves. Each relationship is a learning experience. If we hopped right on the marriage wagon what would we have to back up what we think a couple should be like. Nothing.

Just think of all the things like the myspace incident this girl has done, and use it as motivation to realize why you should no be with this girl any longer. I am sure there is much more than just that.

Young girls basically have no idea what they want. /Thread.

PS: Break up with her.

[RADRaze2KX]

i just went, or rather am currently still going through, the same situation... best thing i can tell you man... DTB and find someone else... i'm happier when i'm not thinking about my ex, she's a fucking whore and i hope that bitch gets herpeghonnosyphilaids.

[JonsZX2SR]

...actually you never want your ex to get any type of STD, especially if she's the sneaky, dishonest type. The chances are too great of her giving the STD to one or more good guys, then they give the STD to a future g/f who winds up being another good guys g/f in the future is just too great.

Better that one day she wakes up in a lousy marriage/relationship with a dirtbag guy, her life is in shambles, she sees how many of her ex's are happy and in good relationships and she thinks that could have been me.

[ZX2guy19]

Kyle, didn't you just fuck an ex prostitute?

[RADRaze2KX]

...actually you never want your ex to get any type of STD, especially if she's the sneaky, dishonest type. The chances are too great of her giving the STD to one or more good guys, then they give the STD to a future g/f who winds up being another good guys g/f in the future is just too great.

Better that one day she wakes up in a lousy marriage/relationship with a dirtbag guy, her life is in shambles, she sees how many of her ex's are happy and in good relationships and she thinks that could have been me.

jon's right... i don't want anyone else to suffer... but ohhh yea she's gonna wind up with 20 kids and 21 baby's daddy's... what a hoe

[so_slow_zx2]

Like the song says, "Run to the hills, run for your life" You are way better off with out her. Yea 3 years isn't easy to walk away from, but after you do it you will feel soo much better.

[RADRaze2KX]

I'll elaborate on my story... she cheated on me, and we broke up on our 1 year anniversary (because she screwed someone else the night before)...

got back together 3 months later, off and on relationship for almost FIVE YEARS... 2 years ago, she screwed one of my friends, so I said "to hell with this bitch, this cycle, this town, this life..." and I moved from Texas to Arizona...

brought her out here to visit a year ago, it was ok... brought her out last month, it was definitely not ok... she's just getting worse... all she did was myspace fuck people while she was here... "learn to have some decency and respect, bitch"... that's what I wanted to tell her...

to hell with her, she deserves whatever she gets, cuz I know it won't be worth it.

[AZN_ZX2]

wow this girl is a bitch. oh and no offense to anyone who does this but aim isn't the way to talk about this stuff. discuss things in person.

[RADRaze2KX]

anybody talking about this on AIM better have a huge temper a short fuse that merits extremely violent tendencies... otherwise, don't be a pussy and just do it in person... people will cry, you, or her, or both... now, or later, or maybe never... but take the abuse, swallow your fucking pride and get it over with.

[AZN_ZX2]

anybody talking about this on AIM better have a huge temper a short fuse that merits extremely violent tendencies... otherwise, don't be a pussy and just do it in person... people will cry, you, or her, or both... now, or later, or maybe never... but take the abuse, swallow your fucking pride and get it over with.

I agree completely. it gives both people the opportunity to lie and take your time with replies. sure it could be seen as playing smart, but if you think about it, it really isn't.

My department manager at work says her son texts her about his problems and doesn't talk about them. I really wanted to tell her how pathetic it was. I was utterly disgusted. It's completely ridiculous.

[DragonflvZX2]

Drop her completely. The only thing she wants you for is a back up plan. She doesn't love you at all. She wants to fuck around with other guys but she wants you there to clean up the mess if she get's hurt. I know how it feels to end something that has lasted a long time, but you don't need her, she is bad news. Just advice from another woman. Good luck.

katie

[random_hero]

So I found out that about 2 weeks ago she sucked off a friend of mine. and a week or so ago she fooled around with another friend of mine. fuckin awesome. The guy whos dick she sucked had a girlfriend, who was also a friend of mine. I met up with her tonight. We watched "semi pro" and made dinner plans for sunday night.

[AZN_ZX2]

So I found out that about 2 weeks ago she sucked off a friend of mine. and a week or so ago she fooled around with another friend of mine. fuckin awesome. The guy whos dick she sucked had a girlfriend, who was also a friend of mine. I met up with her tonight. We watched "semi pro" and made dinner plans for sunday night.

Pimp slap. Sorry to hear that bro. Sounds like you should stay away.

[joshalabama]

Is this a farewell dinner? Your riding a sled that is about to go off a cliff.

[koihoshi]

Is this a farewell dinner? Your riding a sled that is about to go off a cliff.

Yep. Farewell dinner or revenge dinner. Cancel it, leave it be, move on. Write her a letter or something if you want her to have "closure" but you're wasting your time doing anything further with this girl.

She clearly has no respect for you. You do not owe her the time of day to feed it further.

Be the bigger man, move on, be happy, there are women out there that WILL treat you with respect that you are more deserving of, my friend.

[RADRaze2KX]

So I found out that about 2 weeks ago she sucked off a friend of mine. and a week or so ago she fooled around with another friend of mine. fuckin awesome. The guy whos dick she sucked had a girlfriend, who was also a friend of mine. I met up with her tonight. We watched "semi pro" and made dinner plans for sunday night.

now your story is starting to sound like mine, i kid you not... dude, leave her be... don't even go to dinner with her, it's only gonna hurt you in the long run, trust me... I've tried getting away from mine for 2 years, but as long as you continue to communicate, the pain will NEVER go away... and not just the pain, that feeling you get when you hear songs about cheating on the radio, when you watch movies and see scenes involving affairs, when you call her and hear other guys in the background, even when you watch porn sometimes, man... everything will piss you off, and it's not something you want to deal with... you wanna know how fucking bad it gets, PM me, i'll tell you how my story goes, in depth, and you can match it blow for blow...

I'm tellin you right now, kill the communication, and to hell with the "friends" that let her mess around with them, especially the one with a gf, he's only compounding the problem.

[J-Dizzle!]

Personally, I don't think it should have even gotten to this point before you asked for help. It should be obvious that she's not a good person, and needs a lot (LOT) of time to grow up. Even then girls like this may not even change. With guys that (no offense at all) even CONSIDER staying with them after the shit she puts them through only encourages her to do it again and again. Help end the cycle not only of her fucking with and around on you, but also help her realize she can't get away with it. Don't even be friends with her. She's not the kind of girl that would have your back.

[TheCrazyGuy]

This girl is completely normal for someone of her age. Guys act this way all the time, just without the (really plain language like) "I don't want to act like I'm married". She wants to "have fun". Aka "date". Aka "see what's out there". Aka bone around, get drunk and suck some dudes off, all of that shit.

Let her go, she's not the one for you, and if she is, you're not going to want her until she's sowed her wild oats. EVERYONE should really have a chance to sow their wild oats before they settle down, including you.

[capitalcrew]

I think he made plans with his friends girlfriend, not his ex, FYI.

[RADRaze2KX]

I think he made plans with his friends girlfriend, not his ex, FYI.

Guess I didn't read that the same way you did. Sorry, about that mate

[2000zx2chik]

The girl you text that night had you texted her like that before or did you just do it because you found the stuff onmyspace from your g/f? Either way it sounds lik ean unhealthy relationship that neither one of you need to be in.

Sorry i didnt read pg.2 lol. Yea she def stepped over the line with messing with your friends, I owuld suggest find a new girl adn new friends.

Yea i need to be taking my own advice but whatever, dont remind me.

[random_hero]

I think he made plans with his friends girlfriend, not his ex, FYI.

lol, repped for reading.

[capitalcrew]

;)

[TomStratRT]

I had to deal with this same bullshit drama towards the end of HS. I was always relationship minded, I didn't care for the whole FWB thing. I loved having one girl I could always depend on and didn't have to worry about.

In reading all of the posts I'd have to say I hope you are rid of the ex for good, got to bone the ex friends, ex girlfriend and sent pictures to your ex. That...would be awesome.

[Beodude123]

Dude, I live with Jen. I have girl problems every day! Hahahaha... Just kidding Jen, don't castrate me!

[random_hero]

Soooooo.... I just htought I'd let everyone know....... she just IM'd me - and she had sex with some kid who has herpesand now has to go get checked, ect.

Karma - 1
Her Life - 0

[2000zx2chik]

Wow that sucks.. for her. Karma is a Bitch.

[Mike]

Whore.

[ZX2guy19]

Kyle, is this the bitch I called and asked for a good time? LOL

[Connal]

Soooooo.... I just htought I'd let everyone know....... she just IM'd me - and she had sex with some kid who has herpesand now has to go get checked, ect.

Karma - 1
Her Life - 0

BWAH HAHAHAHAHA!

I shouldn't laugh. VD is never funny. But like you said, Karma - 1. Maybe we will all see her in some commercial saying how this new medication makes it possible for her to rock climb, canoe, BBQ, and bike. All the things she loved to do. And then she can warn us that even though you aren't showing signs of infection, you can still spread the disease to someone else.

I laugh at those commercials. Congrats bro. You got out while the getting was good.

[pissdrunx16]

Yeah I just now read the first post... in my head has i read i knew that was going to happen (sorry man) I have been down this same road.... I dont understand why younger girls always want to party like girls gone wild sluts and hump other diseased dudes??? expecially when they have a non diseased dude right next to her??? its stupid!! after my g/f did that crap i kicked her to the crub!

[Buster]

Yeah I just now read the first post... in my head has i read i knew that was going to happen (sorry man) I have been down this same road.... I dont understand why younger girls always want to party like girls gone wild sluts and hump other diseased dudes??? expecially when they have a non diseased dude right next to her??? its stupid!! after my g/f did that crap i kicked her to the crub!

To the crub you go, whore! :lol:

[RADRaze2KX]

after ranting in "Dear Diary" myself, I just realized how fucking stupid i was for trying to get my ex-gf back. don't ever do anything as stupid as I did, I got hella deep into the financial hole with that bitch, and got emotionally fucked. I haven't actively talked to her since she left back in May, and I kid you not, I am so fucking happy now it's ridiculous... now to take care of the finances..

[random_hero]

And apparently she banged another dude. LOL


ouch. Hope he likes herpes. lol

[random_hero]

and Brad - Yes it is LMAO.


I just wish her parents knew how much a slut she was. The guy who she sucked off and broke up that relationship - that girlfriend called her house at 1AM drunk - I don't think she said anything bad, but she told her mom it was because she "Gave her bad advice" .....yeah...how about you blew her BF ? sluuuuuuut

[Mike]

Hmm...what a trampy whore.

[ZX2R]

You are seriously better off random. Sorry that it didn't work out, but who wants to be with someone whose with everyone else?

[2000ZxT]

I didn't really read the whole thing, but here's my $0.02.

The minute a girl stops making you feel better about yourself, and worse, it's time to kick her to the curb.

I wanted to break up with my GF when she was gallivanting around ( she wanted to sleep over a habitual cheaters house, that was one hell of a night). By staying together with her the only thing I did was hurt myself, then she broke up with me.

I'll sure as hell never make that mistake twice.

[rlbzx2]

It seems there are a lot of nice guys on here that want to "be" their for their girls and then get drug through the mud for it. Sounds like you got out in time...and I have read this thread a few times...and should learn to take some advice from it. Dealing with similar drama...from time to time...and be on and off for about 4 years. All I'm doing sometimes I feel is waisting my time...waisting my youth...but at the same time I'm fighting with the thought that you can make it work.

What I have tried to do is just keep active...keep busy with my friends, my studies for work/schooling, and try and find someone else to devote my energy too.

I'm sure I don't sound much different than any of the other advice...but that is my 2 cents.

[RADRaze2KX]

yup... be active and you'll definitely have no problem getting over it... you'll think and wonder about her occasionally, but it won't be like that heart racing feeling =]