Should I be Worried?

[DragonflvZX2]

A guy I dated for four years is flying 3000 miles on Memorial Day weekend to go to an event by himself that he really doesn't like. He knows I will be there. I haven't seen the guy in about 3 years and I stopped communication with him completely 6 months ago when he started telling me how much he wanted me back. I already have hotel reservations and registration for the convention has been paid for so I can't get out of it, nor do i want to...any advice would be helpful. I am afraid he will start shit with my fiancee.

Katie

[00EscortZx2]

Ignore him. If he comes near you have your finance beat his ass or call the 5-0. Nice Z btw =)

[gold_member]

if it is a convention that people are flying 3000 miles to attend, what are the chances you will actually see the guy. otherwise ignoring him is the best thing you can do

[JonsZX2SR]

Wear an outrageous disguise, unless it is inapprpriate for the convenstion.

Seriously if the convention is large you probably won't see him and if he does track him down, you probably have enough information to get a restraining order.

If he does meet up with you and the fiancee, just introduce him, tell him how great the fiancee is, how happy you are, how much you love him and expect to spend your life with him, etc., etc. lay it on real thick.

One of two things will happen to the (possible) stalker. Either his ego will get deflated and he'll get the message or he'll lose it right then and their. Either way you're rid of him.

If you and the fiancee have a couple of large friends, have them around, just in case...

[gold_member]

if its a star wars convention or something like that just dress up like a storm trooper

[ZetecInside]

Just go, and keep your fiancee close by. Your ex probably won't have the balls to start shit in front of your new man, and if he does, your fiancee will straighten him out.

Question: If you haven't had any contact with this guy for 6 months, how did you find out he was going to this thing?

[capitalcrew]

Give your finance some shiny brass knuckles and leave dents on this tools face.

[DragonflvZX2]

Wear an outrageous disguise, unless it is inapprpriate for the convenstion.

Seriously if the convention is large you probably won't see him and if he does track him down, you probably have enough information to get a restraining order.

If he does meet up with you and the fiancee, just introduce him, tell him how great the fiancee is, how happy you are, how much you love him and expect to spend your life with him, etc., etc. lay it on real thick.

One of two things will happen to the (possible) stalker. Either his ego will get deflated and he'll get the message or he'll lose it right then and their. Either way you're rid of him.

If you and the fiancee have a couple of large friends, have them around, just in case...

It's not big at all, it's in a hotel in Santa Clara. I know we will run into him but as far as large friends...My fiancee is a federal law enforcer, trained in all sorts of stuff that hurts people. He could take care of the situation should it turn violent, then after him I have my entire IRISH west coast family to jump in.

[DragonflvZX2]

Just go, and keep your fiancee close by. Your ex probably won't have the balls to start shit in front of your new man, and if he does, your fiancee will straighten him out.

Question: If you haven't had any contact with this guy for 6 months, how did you find out he was going to this thing?

I was able to block him from everything but my phone. He called me out of the blue from a phone number that was the same area code as my mothers...I thought it might have been her calling from work. He told me he was going after telling me about all my mail that was still going to his house.

[inis]

so we have conversations with ppl we dont want to talk too?

I see this alot, a girl will answer the phone (or not hang up in this case) carry a phone conversation, go oh noes what did I do. Then go tell everyone else they dont want to talk to that person.

[DragonflvZX2]

so we have conversations with ppl we dont want to talk too?

I see this alot, a girl will answer the phone (or not hang up in this case) carry a phone conversation, go oh noes what did I do. Then go tell everyone else they dont want to talk to that person.


Yeah you are right. Everyone does it not just girls, I didn't realize who it was at first. Like I said, it wasn't his number. The conversation lasted maybe 15 seconds.

So no, I don't talk to him...it's more than just not wanting to. The guy is a loony. He hit my dog with a truck, he called my mother a whore to her face, he cut one of my brake lines, He shot my picture with a .308. He stalked my house late at night the last time i visited my parents (no I didn't tell him I was going to be there, word travels fast in a little town full of mutual aquaintences) That was all after I left him.

I am a little past the whole high school torture the ex thing, I stopped all communications with him for good reasons, and I don't want to reanimate them. There will be no introductions and I won't be caught by myself. I am going to try and enjoy myself

But it was a good thing that he did call...I paid for my new MD registration and my parents never got it. For some reason it went to his house...NOOOO idea how since my title has my parent's addy on it. So I got my stickers on April 29th and it was up the 30th.

Katie