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Alright, so I've known this girl for 5 years now. Most of it was long distance, the first 4 years. Then i moved within an hour or 2 of her; so we went out a few times and started dating.
Now to make a long story short; I love her and shes loves me. But i can't see myself with her because i'm not attracted to her at all. She reminds me of my mom looks wise; in every way; that makes me almost despise how she looks.
What to do . . . =( Shes good looking but shes a replica of my mom.
rusty
05-12-2008, 08:08 AM
Lol your gf looks like your mom...
...pics?
2000zx2chik
05-12-2008, 08:18 AM
Sounds like you love her but your not IN love with her .. Sorry to sound all cliche. But you need to let her know your not attracted to her in that way before she really gets her.
PHeller
05-12-2008, 09:13 AM
You know what they say...men like to marry woman like their mothers. Sounds like your in luck!
2000zx2chik
05-12-2008, 09:16 AM
Lol Like there mothers not ones that look like them.
Buster
05-12-2008, 09:39 AM
Alright, so I've known this girl for 5 years now. Most of it was long distance, the first 4 years. Then i moved within an hour or 2 of her; so we went out a few times and started dating.
Now to make a long story short; I love her and shes loves me. But i can't see myself with her because i'm not attracted to her at all. She reminds me of my mom looks wise; in every way; that makes me almost despise how she looks.
What to do . . . =( Shes good looking but shes a replica of my mom.
Have her adopt you as her son. You can still love each other, but you wouldn't have to kiss her. If you do...ICK.
She knows; we're currently "on a break". Its just a difficult thing due to me loving her =\
KyleBlueZX2
05-12-2008, 05:09 PM
take her out to a spa and get her a make over and some new clothes so she looks all sexy!
Dude, its not that shes not beautiful. I'm just not attracted to her; she gets hit on 50x a day. I shit you not; I'm just not attracted =\
rusty
05-12-2008, 06:52 PM
pics plz
DragonflvZX2
05-12-2008, 07:31 PM
Yeah...you are in an awkward situation. If you are not physically attracted to her, it's not going to work. Just another woman's advice. But don't tell her you are not attracted to her...that will make her REALLLLLLY depressed and she will think there is something wrong with her...and that can get ugly. Women are irrational. trust me, I know...
PHeller
05-12-2008, 08:00 PM
Ttiwwp
This Thread Is Worthless Without Pics!
Manbearpig
05-12-2008, 08:23 PM
Dude, its not that shes not beautiful. I'm just not attracted to her; she gets hit on 50x a day. I shit you not; I'm just not attracted =\
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
Man tell me about it. Having a super model g/f sucks...all she wants to do is walk around naked and have sex. Some times I wish she would just go away....
Been there; freaking sent my father nude pics . . but thats another dear diary thread for a different day.
ZX2guy19
05-12-2008, 10:54 PM
Honestly though, it does kind of suck having a hot girl...because jealousy is a BITCH.
My GF now, her ex, and a guy at work have like forced a kiss out of her. By like kissing her when she wasn't expecting it n crap. So its sucks, and she is beautiful. Its just shes thick, and i'm not too into that.
Manbearpig
05-13-2008, 09:32 AM
Dude, its not that shes not beautiful. I'm just not attracted to her; she gets hit on 50x a day. I shit you not; I'm just not attracted =\
Its just shes thick, and i'm not too into that.
Man she sounds like one hot babe
Cherokee
05-22-2008, 01:12 AM
Dude, its not that shes not beautiful. I'm just not attracted to her; she gets hit on 50x a day. I shit you not; I'm just not attracted =\
ATTENTION all you whippersnappers: (This statement has at least two lessons)
FOR EVERY HOT CHICK YOU SEE, SOME GUY IS TIRED OF PORKIN HER
lesson one- Don't be intimidated by a hottie. Approach her in a fun, I'll be that guy someday way.
lesson two- Don't get married. We are guys. The grass will always be greener in the other pasture. It may take a while to turn, but it will.
Digi, I had a gf like that when I was young. DO NOT TELL HER YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO HER! She will bust her nuts to get superhot to torture you with it. Just ease off the bf role and work into a long time friends plus relationship.
scort2498
05-22-2008, 01:27 AM
this man is einstein^^^^
koihoshi
05-25-2008, 01:02 PM
Attraction isn't all physical. He means simply not attracted. It happens.
Personality, looks, feelings, the way one expresses their self. Ever walk up to an insanely amazing woman who blows your mind in how she looks, then find out she has the worst personality you've ever had the misfortune of encountering? Instant dissatisfaction. That's attraction. Or rather, it isn't.
It's what mentally, emotionally, physically that you find appeasing and that satisfies you and who you are. It has a lot more to do than that as well, from how they carry themselves to how they act and how that shows their personality and the qualities that you feel are compatible with you.
If it's not clicking, you aren't feeling it or you were previously then there are factors.
1. Something changed, or you both changed habits, something drastically is killing what initially attracted you.
2. It wasn't "love" but perhaps infatuation. It happens. Sometimes months down the road. It's not a bad thing by any means, though people will deny it.
3. You aren't compatible.
Remember... attraction is about desires, qualities that are appeasing and potential COMPATIBILITY.
If it isn't working, figure out why, analyze, learn, move on... or figure out why, analyze, learn and fix it. If it can't be fixed you aren't compatible. Simple as that.
Keep in mind you both have feelings involved, so it isn't fair to ignore her feelings either (not saying you are ignoring them), I simply mean you both need to figure out what you want to do so it isn't insanely difficult for both of you.
af3ll
05-25-2008, 01:46 PM
You did not pull a hot chic, Digi.
koihoshi
05-25-2008, 01:56 PM
Well in that case
FAIL.
so_slow_zx2
05-30-2008, 07:06 PM
I had this same situation happen to me. My ex fiance and I had been together for 4 years and then one day it just all blew up. We had both fallen out of love with each other but didn't want to admit it and had become bitter enemies. Now almost 3 years later her and I are BEST friends. We hang out and talk on the phone all the time. It's funny how things came full circle and we are close again.
Point is "The Truth Shall Set You Free" lame as it sounds, just be honest with her. Your going to end up hurting her more by hiding the truth.
J-Dizzle!
05-30-2008, 09:09 PM
I say go for it.
random_hero
05-30-2008, 09:36 PM
http://i299.photobucket.com/albums/mm296/macrosgalore/togtfo.jpg
Shadowen925
05-30-2008, 10:13 PM
I would have to say, this sounds like someone that can be your best friend. Almost like a sister to you. Some one that can advise you if you're having relationship problems with another girl. Someone that you can go to and have a good time knowing that you don't have to put on any kind of a show to impress her because she obviously likes you the way you are. She is someone that you talk with about anything and someone that will cheer you up when your girlfriend cheats on you someday.
That's not all that bad is it?
J-Dizzle!
05-30-2008, 11:41 PM
I would have to say, this sounds like someone that can be your best friend. Almost like a sister to you. Some one that can advise you if you're having relationship problems with another girl. Someone that you can go to and have a good time knowing that you don't have to put on any kind of a show to impress her because she obviously likes you the way you are. She is someone that you talk with about anything and someone that will cheer you up when your girlfriend cheats on you someday.
That's not all that bad is it?
Or he could just skip all that and talk to his real mom.
Shadowen925
06-01-2008, 09:39 PM
Or he could just skip all that and talk to his real mom.
Haha. I'm really close with both of my parents but some things I would really feel awkward talking with my mom about. I guess I just figured everyone was like that.
It still is nice to have someone your age to talk to also.
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