Is the Service BEST for me

[WickedZ]

Well I just moved to Florida, Pensacola area beginning of this month. We love it down here and all, but job hunting is not working out. We have a nice CONDO waiting for us at a good deal. No one is calling myself or gf back on any jobs, and we called on ALL applied for application status.

Well I dont want to go back up to Michigan and neither does my gf. She is still legally married to some jackass who lives in PRISON and has not even tryed to call even once on his daughter, WHO IS MY DAUGHTER NOW. She is almost 5 now and I have been in her life 4 1/2 of those years. Now we need to get everything finalized on her divorsment so we can marry, 20 years down the road HAHA.

NO really, is the service the best thing for me with all my troubles? We need a place to stay and I know the servise will help for housing. But dont I need to be married to my gf? I just want whats best for my family and will do anything.

Help me out you guys.

NOW, we do have option #2 but it SUX.

My gf's cuz is a manager at a hotel in Tallahassee. She said she can get me in starting 25k which isnt good, but its income, AND a FREE ROOM to live in for my family. Now this isnt any parents choice, but I might not have any other choice. We dont even know where we would go in Michigan if we had to go back. Also her cuz said she can get her a job to. We might also be able to pull a Free combo room thing, where the rooms are together,but a door between the 2. I just dont know anymore, I really try but seem to fail

[WickedZ]

we have a 3 month old to and Im tired of moving

[JonsZX2SR]

It hinges on personal initiative on the part of both you and your g/f. If neither one of you is particularly motivated, the service might be the right choice, but don't expect any favors. on the other hand if you are motivated and want to better yourself you could find a career in the service. Plan on staying long enough to develop marketable skills.

However, the hotel job sounds like something that could be a foundation to the future if both you AND the g/f want to work at it. Assuming you'd make a combined $40K to $50K, have 1.5 to two rooms paid for, you could build financial stability and use the time to look for opportunities. ($25K for a 40 hr/week is $12.50 per hour plus benefits.) The key is whther both of you want to work at it. Each of you would need to watch for opportunities. Do you like maintenance, accounting, cooking, hospitality skills ??

It all comes down to how organized the two of you are and whether you can put together a plan.

[WickedZ]

Jon all good points. We have sat down and TALKED big time about this. I have never been hurting for money or in debt like I am, EVERYTHING until we got together. Now we have 2 kids and are running down hill, when we try to climb.

We both agreed to pull whatever is needed for us and our kids. The time has come for my daughter to start school, and the last thing I need is to make her a school jumper. I want to stay in one place. The hotel thing would prob be best thing for US. Rent is always what kills us. We will take this hotel thing and make the best of it. Not the best thing in teh world, but its a place to live for now and a job, with salary of more then what I ever made before

[WickedZ]

maybe I can work this out at the hotel until, the job with the oil rig comes up. starts out at 45k plus bonus's and everything.

[ilarson007]

man... i dunno... just be sure to think it through thoroughly. It sounds like the hotel thing is a pretty good option for now. hell, i'd kill for 12.50/hr... with benefits.. of course im still in hs and can only work part time

[yellow2000S/R]

Have you both been calling the places where you have applied. Have you done some research on the companies that you really want to work for so you aren't just the average schmuck off the street trying to get any job?

In today's jobs, the employers are wanting you to call. Why should they call you? They probably have tons of people applying, you need to set yourself apart and do the calling.

Do some research on the standard starting salary in your area for said job, tell them what you can do to help improve the company overall and give some ideas. This will allow you to persuade them to possibly start you slightly higher pay rate, or think you would be a greater value to the company.



ALSO, with the 25k for a job... and a free room. (adding to Jons post)

You wont be paying any utilities, property / misc taxes, or a morgage. Dont have to buy your own push mower / tractor (gas, maintenance, etc) if you had your own yard, no landscaping maintenace. That right there makes the 25k actual income better. Figure that saves you 15-20k a year if the room is free which averages out to 40-45k a year. You are just seeing the 25k income NOW instead of at the end of the year after you look back through all your taxes / morgage stuff and say DAMN!!!


Some income is better than none. If you do it for a few months to get stable its all the better. Also consider you would save on gas $ and have a lower risk of any accidents because you wont be driving to work. Thats another $800+ a year not going out of your pocket if you were putting $30 in every 2 weeks. You would be fine with 1 vehicle (dont know how many you have now) and could possibly qualify for cheaper insurance because you wouldnt be putting on much milage throughout the year.

It all adds up LOL.

[WickedZ]

Have you both been calling the places where you have applied. Have you done some research on the companies that you really want to work for so you aren't just the average schmuck off the street trying to get any job?
In today's jobs, the employers are wanting you to call. Why should they call you? They probably have tons of people applying, you need to set yourself apart and do the calling.

Do some research on the standard starting salary in your area for said job, tell them what you can do to help improve the company overall and give some ideas. This will allow you to persuade them to possibly start you slightly higher pay rate, or think you would be a greater value to the company.



ALSO, with the 25k for a job... and a free room. (adding to Jons post)

You wont be paying any utilities, property / misc taxes, or a morgage. Dont have to buy your own push mower / tractor (gas, maintenance, etc) if you had your own yard, no landscaping maintenace. That right there makes the 25k actual income better. Figure that saves you 15-20k a year if the room is free which averages out to 40-45k a year. You are just seeing the 25k income NOW instead of at the end of the year after you look back through all your taxes / morgage stuff and say DAMN!!!


Some income is better than none. If you do it for a few months to get stable its all the better. Also consider you would save on gas $ and have a lower risk of any accidents because you wont be driving to work. Thats another $800+ a year not going out of your pocket if you were putting $30 in every 2 weeks. You would be fine with 1 vehicle (dont know how many you have now) and could possibly qualify for cheaper insurance because you wouldnt be putting on much milage throughout the year.

It all adds up LOL.

Yeah Josh, as I said in the first post last sentence of first paragraph LOL, we called on every job we applied at, for status of our application. No return calls after that. We only have 1 car so I guess a job for her PT outside would work out. I just spiced up my resume for the job and sent it to the main guy for employment. I didnt realize it ends up being 12+ hour plus free room or 2 room combo deal. We know its going to be a shitting living life, BUT I think my gf now realizes, we cant go to malls when we have money, we cant have her smoke pack a day newport's. I broke it down yesterday, we need to do something or else we will never make nothing of ourselfs.

IN THE END
We figured this. My extra income from my job, goes into a direct deposit bank account down here. We live off what she would make, maybe a little off mine if she dont bring in enough for food, cloths needed, ect. This will give us enough money saved up ALOT quicker. We might need to figure out HOW to get internet. She is working from home right now (just started) so she needs the net. Plus I can post my problems for everyone to think of me as a failure some more. No but we have that motivation now, that we needed 3 years ago. This will work out.

[powder]

The hotel deal seems the best. After all's said and done, you're looking at a minimum of a $6k savings on rent alone. I dunno how much you pay now, but that's figured off of $500/month. I would say the hotel job will give you some experience and a good amount of money. You just gotta be wise w/ it.

As for the oil rig, like you said man, you got a daughter. Oil rigs are dangerous as hell for many reasons. Weather, heavy duty machinery, etc. You don't want to let that daughter down man. Just forget about that and get into a safe, comfortable field. While you're working at the hotel, go to IT school or something. All in all, i do not think working on an oil rig will give you what you want. It would be more time away from you family and i guarantee you it will make you miserable.

I'm not tryin to be a downer, i'm just tryin to say you and your g/f don't need the extra stress of you bein away for so many months at a time. Think about it man and consider your family into the equation. They need you there.

[WickedZ]

oh yeah I know. I have a 4 1/2 year old daughter and a 3 month old son. The oil rig is seriously 2 weeks in and 2 weeks out. You can do 3 weeks in and thats all OT.

but right now we are staying with gf's mom but have to be out by the 1st of next month. We planned on getting jobs here in this area, and we already have a condo here waiting for us. Well things didnt turn out so i was looking for other options. Well then this hotel thing came up between my gf and her cuz.

oh and rent here would be 795 month + utilites, ect

[JonsZX2SR]

...but a big part hinges on the g/f doing her part. If she wants to coast through life, wants you to deal with the tough stuff, can't stick with the plan, etc. it isn't going to work. Many times one person 9
(and it isn't always the woman) can't follow through and figure they can dump everything on the other person.

Life becomes tough on the person who is working steadily, eventually they get fed up and things fall apart. Make sure your g/f is committed to making this work before moving forward.

If the 2 of you decided to see where you could go in the hotel business (it isn't just mainteneance and cleaning rooms) TOGETHER you might be able to make a life of it.

Good luck...